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Need to be safe

Sometimes reality can just slap you in the face right? The guy on the side of course claimed we could still be friends but yeah all he wants is sex. I know this, I know it is true so yeah just done.

I was thinking about sex today and the fact that I can count on one hand the number of guys I’ve slept with. Honestly, I’ve just slept with my first and now second husband. That is it. It seems weird to think about that, but it is the truth. Sex has always scared me to be honest. I didn’t do it because I didn’t find it enjoyable.

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So opinion time, time to seek advice. If you were friends with someone, and you get into a relationship. The person expresses sexual interest in you and you shut them down. Should you still talk with them? I was told by a friend no. I believe she is right. I know in my heart that she is right, but there is something inside of me that tells me it is okay and it doesn’t matter and I can still keep talking to him. We aren’t talking anything sexual, just talking as we were, friends.

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Marriage, abuse, casual sex and where I fit in…

I posted about my “side piece” offer and the idea of it just shocks me. So why think so much about it right? I am not thinking about the offer, but thinking about me. I am thinking about all the relationships and interactions I have had with men and this just feels like the culmination of that. Ultimately, the question is would I do it? The answer is complicated. Simple, no. I know that I couldn’t and won’t do anything because I am married and love my husband. I could never do anything to hurt him like that.

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